"But just because I think SW is right, dosen't mean it's reassuring, because there's nothing reassuring about having been hurt/injured often enough that you're used to it, even if you CAN handle it perfectly fine. And that's sad in general because of what it says about the life he's lead, you know? And it's upsetting to Zhao Yunlan in particular because he (of course!) wants them to be good to and for each other, and here he is just another item in the long list of things that have hurt Shen Wei. Which is the absolute last thing he wants to be!"
Omg, yes, THIS, all of this, 100%. ♡♡♡
ETA: This is a really thinky post, so I guess just add things as I think of them, lol.
"But you're making me wonder whether any of us are actually talking about the same thing that's sad/upsetting/not reassuring to either us or to Zhao Yunlan ... *g*"
Yeah, I don't think so. :D But also in my experience no one ever does. Like, even when people's opinions seem to completely overlap, if you dig deep enough you'll find all kinds of differences, especially in why they hold the opinion, but also in which parts of it are the important ones, and probably in a million other ways. I think that's really cool. :D
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Omg, yes, THIS, all of this, 100%. ♡♡♡
ETA: This is a really thinky post, so I guess just add things as I think of them, lol.
"But you're making me wonder whether any of us are actually talking about the same thing that's sad/upsetting/not reassuring to either us or to Zhao Yunlan ... *g*"
Yeah, I don't think so. :D But also in my experience no one ever does. Like, even when people's opinions seem to completely overlap, if you dig deep enough you'll find all kinds of differences, especially in why they hold the opinion, but also in which parts of it are the important ones, and probably in a million other ways. I think that's really cool. :D