"novel!ZYL has so much emotional power over novel!SW that I don't think SW would do either of those things. He'd think, "This is what Kunlun wants, and I will accept it, even if it's not what I would have chosen for myself." :-("

Hmmm, I don't really see that? And yeah, it's mostly just because it IS what he would have chosen for himself. :P But if it actually wasn't, Zhao Yunlan wouldn't wait a single second before selling it and buying a different place that Shen Wei actually likes. I don't see Shen Wei as afraid to speak up, and even if he was, Zhao Yunlan would see the hints - I feel like he's only clueless if he's actively thinking hard about something else, which is not 100% of the time generally may be 90% of the time tho, lol.